OK so I am having baby fever again. I really really want to add to our family and though at times I feel I am ok with waiting, most of the time I on the other side...wishing for another child.
There are so many road blocks in the way though, no matter which way I turn.
Getting pregnant - no luck at this point. I could try fertility but the cost is crazy and at this point my blood pressure is still too high I don't feel right risking my health or even losing a baby. But also the longer I wait, the older I get, and the harder it can be and the higher the risk. SIGH!!!
Adoption has been lingering above my head again lately too. BUT there is no money for that right now. With J being unemployed for over a year we don't exactly have a very prosperous money tree to be banking for another adoption. When we started our adoption in 2004 the average cost of a domestic infant adoption was 10K, what I found yesterday was 15-20K plus birth mother expenses. WHOLLY COW! that is what we spent in total!
The obvious and the ideal choice would be the foster care system but I have heard such horror stories from my area and that worries me. I personally find it annoying to drag on an adoption process for so long...the classes for becoming a foster parent, the fostering for one year, the visitation with birth parents, the several home visits, and the idea I have to use public school (no homeschooling) until the adoption is complete...two years from the starting point. I know it is all for a purpose and I am not judging the system I just don't have the motivation to deal with it.
So what do I do? Just be patient and wait? I have praying and praying and praying, for some guidance but there just seems to be no perfect choice. Any opinions or ideas from you guys?
There are so many road blocks in the way though, no matter which way I turn.
Getting pregnant - no luck at this point. I could try fertility but the cost is crazy and at this point my blood pressure is still too high I don't feel right risking my health or even losing a baby. But also the longer I wait, the older I get, and the harder it can be and the higher the risk. SIGH!!!
Adoption has been lingering above my head again lately too. BUT there is no money for that right now. With J being unemployed for over a year we don't exactly have a very prosperous money tree to be banking for another adoption. When we started our adoption in 2004 the average cost of a domestic infant adoption was 10K, what I found yesterday was 15-20K plus birth mother expenses. WHOLLY COW! that is what we spent in total!
The obvious and the ideal choice would be the foster care system but I have heard such horror stories from my area and that worries me. I personally find it annoying to drag on an adoption process for so long...the classes for becoming a foster parent, the fostering for one year, the visitation with birth parents, the several home visits, and the idea I have to use public school (no homeschooling) until the adoption is complete...two years from the starting point. I know it is all for a purpose and I am not judging the system I just don't have the motivation to deal with it.
So what do I do? Just be patient and wait? I have praying and praying and praying, for some guidance but there just seems to be no perfect choice. Any opinions or ideas from you guys?
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If I did it for a young child, I would do the foster system. My girlfriend adopted international twice and then became a foster parent and was given a newborn girl she has had for six months. She is not sure she can adopt her (she thinks she is too old). It might be the way to go!